What is the button pushing I speak of some of you may ask?
The Button Pushing I speak of is that thought word or deed that immediately insights either an extremely definitive positive or negative reaction for another.
We all repeatedly push each other’s buttons.
We’re meant to push each other’s buttons.
Pushed buttons continually avail us to the opportunity to delve deeper into the exploration of the self one button push at a time.
Button Pushing is part of the infinite flow of relationships.
Sometimes we intentionally attempt to push specific buttons in another.
Occasionally we deliberately target a reaction from another however for the most part when we target a reaction we are usually targeting a positive or loving reaction, but not always!
Sometimes we do push buttons to insight anger.
Anger is extremely revealing, therefore a burst anger can at times be required for each of us to reveal our truth in the moment – not to other, but essentially to the self .
A short burst of anger is healthy as it allows us to release repressed feelings and emotions.
For the most part we have been conditioned to repress feelings for fear of hurting or disappointing another when in fact all we actually do in our state of repression is disappoint and hurt the self.
It’s in the breath of release that the pain of pent up anger does cease.
In general we don’t deliberately push buttons to insight negativity in another.
Negative responses often come as a shock when button have been unsuspectingly pushed.
For the most part we all keep our true Positive and Negative Buttons a secret.
We all tend to hide aspects of our authentic self from the self, so we most certainly won’t eagerly reveal them to someone else.
When we unsuspectingly push a button in another that insights a response almost equal to the fire of hell we can be very sure we have pushed a bottom that has a source of extreme pain.
Anger at a core level is never directed to another.
Anger is a mask to hide pain.
Anger is a cry for love and understanding.
Anger is generally a cry from the self to the self to behave or think in a more differently in a given situation or relationship.
Everyone is sourced from love. Love is who and what we are, and Love is ever Patient and Kind.
Anger is fear based, and emotions that are fear based distance themselves from love and so in anger we disconnect from the self and that hurts, and in fact prolonged anger rips us from our soul and when that happens the pain is excruciating.
When we are experiencing this excruciating pain the best thing to do is pray that someone comes along to push a button within us that can once more reconnect us with the love that we eternally are.
Pushing buttons always either starts or stops an action or reaction.
When our negative buttons are pushed by others it’s perfectly OK and actually healthy to have a short burst of anger, but we must also be aware that a gift of healing is being offered to us in the moment in a most unsuspecting and probably undesirable way imaginable!
My advice in these instances is to have the outburst and then calmly flow into the gifted healing.
In ever arena of life from politics to parenting, from religion to education – in fact from every voice that speaks each and every day comes words that push the buttons of someone. How we each react to button pushing is a choice -but please remember that at times we all need to have our negative buttons pushed to help fuel and start on a more positive journey in life. It’s so very easy in life to get stuck in non-productive self- designed comfort zones of being – sometimes we need a push to move us out of our comfort zone into an new unfamiliar far more rewarding zone of adventure and unexpected personal joy and fulfillment.
Love definitely works in mysterious way but love definitely does always work in all of its mysterious ways.
Kerry Guy ©