HOW DOES facebook IMPACT YOUR LIFE? – Updated!

#Since I wrote this article almost two weeks ago I have watched the movie Social Network and after doing so – if the movie is an accurate account of facebook’s inception – I can fully comprehend why there is such a flow of good and less than good intent in facebook’s use!

#However as I consider that facebook has developed into a far more positive than negative social network my faith is reaffirmed in the reality that Good always overpowers Evil as it invariably does in Fairy-tales and Children’s Stories.

In life even if we can’t at first see it  -The Good Guy Always Wins – And so it is!


TODAY , May 30th 2011 ACCORDING TO A GOOGLE SEARCH I RAN ABOUT 301,000,000 PEOPLE SUBSCRIBE TO facebook! I have no idea if this figure is correct or not but we all know that facebook is subscribed to by a huge number – perhaps the number is even greater!

Are you one of these people?

What  initially prompted you to subscribe to facebook?

Do you believe that facebook has fulfilled or perhaps even  in some ways more than filled your initial hopes when you subscribed to it?

What do you believe has been the predominant draw card to this most recognized social networking website of the 21at century that has kept it growing and growing since it was first launched by its founder  Mark Zuckerberg on February 4th, 2004?

THE PROS AND CONS OF SUBSCRBING TO facebook ARE WIDE RANGING and all conceived through human input and interaction.

FACEBOOK itself however should never be held accountable for how people choose to use it!


I further believe that facebook when used with integrity is one of the most effective positive and appreciated social vehicles in our present day world.

Sadly however facebook by some is not always used with integrity.

Often facebook is  seen as an unsolicited dating platform, or an open arena for flirtatious inappropriate and totally disrespectful comments! A percentage of facebook users  see facebook as an opportunity to vent pent-up anger, hostility  or even as a forum to voice deliberate antagonizing opposition to beliefs other than there own rather than embracing new possibilities of thought! Some people delight in expressing their thoughts freely freedom while denying others the same right. And all this, which I consider to be less than favorable behaviour must be acknowledged as being a part of human nature. However this type of rude behavior need not be accepted by any of us on any of our facebook walls as we each have available to us a ‘Remove From Friend List’ and ‘Block User’ option!

The only reason anyone ever offends any of us is simply because we allow them to!

Rather than complain about the user we consider to have offended us perhaps we should consider our personal responsibility in allowing the offense to pass without comment.

If we fail to state how we genuinely feel in our hearts concerning what is and isn’t appropriate in our personal lives then how in all honesty can we expect another to know how we feel?

And furthermore how can we gain the resepct we seek from others if we don’t first show ourselves respect?

If we let hurtful, disrespectful or inappropriate comments pass us by without commenting we are inadvertanly giving them approval and therefore disrespecting ourselves. In these circumstances we can in no way hold anyone but the self accountable – for if we don’t express our feelings with integrity, will never be understood or shown respect.


Facebook is a great place to learn more about the self and life.

Facebook is a great place to discover aspects of ourselves we had never before dreamed existed as we assess our very reaction to every post and comment made on our wall or the walls of others.

Facebook brings the world into our home every day if we so desire, affording us the opportunity to mix with cultures that before were simply understood by what edited documentaries, books or movies portrayed to us.

‘Facebook Helps us Get Real in Life and With Oursleves!’

Problems other than those previously mentioned above can arise in this social networking system simply because of its input of human nature.

I believe that the most excusable reason for some of the human interaction problems experienced on facebook may simply stem from a lack of awareness! As millions of people of varying cultures and creeds connect on  facebook misunderstanding are often born because of inadequate language familiarity and comprehension together with  a low level of awareness of what is and what isn’t acceptable cultural behaviour to the person, or persons with whom one is interacting.

If one is to travel the world  it is advised that he or she gain at least a basic understanding of all the cultures he or she will interact with throughout their journey, Facebook is a world tour every time we log onto it and I feel many people assume that everyone fully understands each other because we are all connecting via the same technological medium.

Computers all work the same way irrespective of the country of their origin or the language spoken in the country of their of their origin. People are not machines nor are they technical apparatuses 0 people are human! People all have  hearts and feelings which do all work the same way – but that same way is dependent on their cultural background and upbringing.

Never assume that because you think one way, that automatically the person with whom you are connecting in another part of the world will feel as you do – or that they will fully comprehend the message you are trying to convey through your language use and choice of words! Facebook users can trigger many moods in us all!

                                                                               FACEBOOK IS FANTASTIC as long as we don’t step into a fantasy world illusion about it instead of a real world reality!!!!!

In our  considered overpopulated world today there are countless lonely people craving social interaction – and facebook for this reason alone is a blessing which offers a wonderful life enhancing service. Many people have created surrogate families through facebook. People who once felt a sense of despair and hopelessness now have hope and purpose in their life simply by feeling connected to others! They finally have someone to share their problems with as they have discovered open ears and hearts to just listen to them voice their pain and problems. Listening is the major initial stage of healing we all at times need – as listening signifies caring and no-one  heals without some level of care!

Some people are housebound due to pained debilitating illness and facebook by its very nature daily helps take these peoples’ minds from their pain out of their restricted living area into practically every country of the world! New expansive thoughts take them from old pain based restricting thoughts. Facebook offers an instantaneous  prescription that no doctor or medical practitioner could! Facebook in this scenario proves the power of the mine is stronger than that of the body!
And facebook does more….

SUPPORTIVE GROUPS are formed in every imaginable area of life- CAUSES are backed and millions of dollars are raised to support these worthy causes – ENVIRONMENTAL PROBLEMS are addressed as people brain storm both day to day and long term solutions to all types of pollution – CHARITIES are formed- Long LOST FRIENDS  and FAMILY MEMBERS are REUNITED – WORLD EVENTS are DISCUSSED from every angle not just as portrayed by the media – Businesses, Writers, Inspirational Speakers, Teachers offer their goods, services and insights to all who wish to join their page – MUSIC from all walks of life is introduced to where it has never been heard before -And SMILES that otherwise would not have happened are put on peoples faces  every day because of facebook!


Yes we may at times be shown blatant disrespect or treated in ways that we do not appreciate by some of our  less enlightened facebook friends and we generally know when we are shown deliberate disrespect or inappropriate flirting  – but these ‘friends’ can be very easily removed from out friend list and blocked!

But when in doubt as to whether that which you deemed to be disrespectful actually was intended as such please to  take time to check if perhaps it was merely a language or cultural misunderstanding in a private message. State clearly, politely and respectfully that which upset or offended you in their post or comment and try to clarify if offense was your friends intention. Don’t, for obvious reasons plaster comments of this nature on your wall or your friends wall. A genuinely sincere person will understand your query and refrain from posting further comments without being fully aware of their meaning.

Also many people complain about being tagged in photos. These people generally find it easier to take time to write a message of complaint to their friend rather than to simply remove their tagged name. That baffles me! Facebook is about interaction and making friends so one should consider tagging as expected, and as a friendly interactive complementary gesture as long as the tag that is not offensive. And this – to some- seemingly highly distressing situation can easily be avoided – as tagging can be blocked in privacy settings!

Being included in  a thread also bothers quite a few people. Again facebook is about interaction with others  and threads are apart of interaction. There is a delete tab clearly positioned on the facebook direct message page and one equally as prominent on email in-boxes both of which can very easily be clicked by those who prefer not keep reading all the incoming thread comments. Many facebook friends prefer this simple ‘Delete’ exercise rather than voicing a complaint for having been included in a gifted message which obviously was believed to have been of interest to the receiver!

Some delete buttons I deduce must be less prominent than others or why else would people prefer to complain to their friends about a friendly gesture rather than taking the quicker and easier option of simply clicking to delete!

I am guessing that if you are reading this blog that you are one of the recorded approximate 310,000,000 facebook subscribers today.

Why any of us joined facebook is unimportant.

Whether facebook has fulfilled our reason for joining facebook is also unimportant.

What is important is that we use facebook with integrity and that we show fellow facebook users total respect. If at any time you are unsure if a comment you would like to add to anyone’s wall is disrespectful in even the slightest way to his or her culture then dont make it or simply click like if you like it.

Remember if deliberate unwarranted disrespect is shown toward any of us that we  all have a ‘Remove From Friend List’ option and a ‘Block User’  option available for us to click!

Overall when balancing the pros and cons of facebook I believe the pros far outweigh the cons and I firmly believe that the world is becoming  a better brighter more connected place because of facebook.

This of course is just my opinion which need not be yours and if  it offends you in any way feel free to comment below as to why or delete  this post!



How when we are all sons and daughters of ONE creator can we not consider ourselves as members of the ONE FAMILY OF LIFE?

How if we accept the ONE FAMILY OF LIFE concept as truth, can we turn our  backs on the unnecessary sufferings of so many of our fellow family members on earth today?

How can we possibly ever show indifference to any other of our fellowmen rather than embracing them as direct members of our ONE FAMILY OF LIFE?

How can any of us not consider ourselves in some energetic way partially responsible for the life paths walked by another in our ONE FAMILY OF LIFE whether they be deemed favourable or unfavourable?

Throughout our world today so many are lonely, homeless, hungry, addicted, committing crimes, hating, resenting and basically spitting on life itself!

Why is this?

And how can so many of the masses turn a blind eye to this huge plea for help?

Its well noted that a naughty disobedient child acts as it does as a cry for help and attention

If helpful attention is not given to a child the same needs for attention and behavioural traits will accompany that child into adulthood with increased severity.

Many of us today consider that the core of our adult pains and struggles lay in our family upbringing – but is this fair? Can we really focus sole blame on our two birth parents in a world where energetically we are ONE FAMILY OF LIFE?

The older I grow the more I question life and its infinite possibilities. And the more I trust life to answer my questions the more I sense that we are all responsible in some way for the lives we all live both  individually and as one combined human race!

Maybe from a Higher Understanding our birth parents were supposed to in some way – as we call it ‘Let us Down ‘  in order for us to realise that we are in fact ONE FAMILY OF LIFE and that we ourselves could be held equally responsible for feeling let down in life for not having sought out help firstly directly from our Creator – and then from our extended family which is huge!

Not only is our extended family huge but it is multi-cultural and therefore has countless takes on the same life situation – which cements my belief that in life there are in limitless possibilities most of which should not be labelled as clearly wrong or right! Every life choice leads to a result which is seen as either favourable or unfavourable depending on personal or cultural opinion. This thought leads to many more possibilities which for now are not related to the topic at hand which is ONE FAMILY OF LIFE.

On this subject I truly believe is that we are ONE UNIFIED FAMILY and that we are here to love, help and support each other throughout life in whatever role is required at any given time – whether that  role be one of energetic mother, father, sister brother, uncle , aunt, cousin son, daughter or even family friend!

Maybe, just maybe if enough of us wholeheartedly support as THE ONE FAMILY OF LIFE concept we can help not only alleviate loneliness, hunger, homelessness but also the need for prisons, rehabilitation centers, institutions for the mentally challenged as we reshape our world in to one of Peace Love Understanding and Acceptance  through which do truly grow into the ONE UNIFIED FAMILY of LIFE!


Mawaddah – A Vision of HOPE can be studied on facebook. Mawaddah is a concept through which family environments can be created for those in our world who feel isolated, lost and alone.   Mawaddah is a Community Service and Outreach Centre designed to integrate the elderly in need of care together with homeless women, and orphaned children in a shared loving supportive family atmosphere.!/pages/Mawaddah-A-Vision-of-HOPE/157761750955829?sk=wall

MAWADDAH – A Dream and Vision of Hope!


“A Shelter from Life’s Storms”


We proudly present to you a vision of hope THE MAWADDAH PROJECT.

      MAWADDAH as you will discover is a:

  • BIG DREAM  but this is a
  • BIG LIMITLESS WORLD where anything is possible because it is filled with
  • BIG-HEARTED PEOPLE who also have
  • BIG DREAMS for a

Maybe Mawaddah is not your exact dream and maybe your dream is not exactly the ‘Mawaddah Dream ‘- But maybe, just maybe through this ‘Mawaddah Dream’ proposal we can bring together a Dream Weaving Team to help and support each other make each every one of our Better World Dreams come true. Perhaps we can even bridge everyone’s dream into one Huge World Changing Dream whereby we truly realize the Family Spirit of Humanity.

In Humility




Mawaddah is a gifted Vision of Hope to share with the world.


It is an immense honor to represent the idea of a much needed family environment for certain members of life’s community through the following proposed charity project.

Project Profile

A Community Service and Outreach Center designed to integrate the elderly in need of care together with homeless women, and orphaned children in a shared loving supportive family atmosphere.

Mawaddah Project aims long term to involve the local communities in its activities and thereby create one large supportive community family spirit.

This proposed social center will eventually stage by stage house homes for the elderly, an incorporated shelter for homeless women and their children a neighboring orphanage, a worship area, a communal self-maintained garden, a combined training and healing center, a swimming pool, health club and a consultancy company.

Mawadda will be staffed by trained, experienced passionate people who share in Mawaddah’s One Family Vision.

Project Facilities and Services.

  • Initial Facilities: Consultancy Company, Training & Healing Center, Home for Elderly, Women’s Shelter, Worship Area, and a Communal Garden.
  • Future Proposed Facilities: Orphanage, Child Day Care Facility, Swimming Pool,  Outdoor Sports/Exercise Area and a Health Club.

1. Initial Facilities

1. 1. Consultancy Company

A management consultancy company’s purpose as a part of stage one of Mawaddah’s development is to help set up and launch Mawaddah’s initial facilities.  In stage two of Mawaddah’s growth the consultancy company will focus on continued facility development as well as generating support income. This company will work both internally and externally. Another of its ongoing objectives will be to service Mawaddah’s facilities ensuring that they always run at optimum up-to-date efficiency.

1. 2. Training and Healing Center

A facility offering personal and language skills development where pursuing one’s passions and life dreams is encouraged. The aim of The Training and Healing Center is to help build self-confidence and self-esteem through increasing personal knowledge and personal skills.  Self confidence and high self-esteem lead to personal healing, success and achievement.

The Training and Healing center is also working internally and externally in order to support finance.

1. 3. Parents’ Home (House of Wisdom) for the elderly people

The Parents’ Home or House of Wisdom will consist of a single multi-floored building with both double and single rooms to facilitate both married and single parents, a communal activity hall and a community dining room plus accommodation for trained staff to be on the premises 24 hours of the day, a first aid room and an administration office.

The design of the House of Wisdom will be aesthetically pleasing and in keeping with the requirements of the elderly in regard to all safety aspects, accessibility, and usability.

1. 4. Women’s Shelter: ‘Haven of Hope’

Part of The House of Wisdom will be set aside as a Women’s Shelter. Any woman with or without children irrespective of her background or personal circumstances may at some point in her life find herself homeless and very afraid that she has nowhere to turn!

A woman may find herself destitute for numerous reasons but whatever the reason it is a part of Mawaddah’s vision to offer homeless women a safe haven where mind body and spirit healing are the primary objective as personal hope and self esteem are restored.

Family is the key word in every aspect of Mawaddah’s vision; hence our proposed ‘Haven of Hope’ is in the same building as our ‘House of Wisdom’. Living in such close proximity will allow the elderly and the women and children to interact as surrogate families for each other whereby the emotional needs of all have the potential to be met

The women of ‘Haven of Hope’ may also help staff the ‘House of Wisdom’ and thus feel useful and of worth. Working in this way offers women experience that may not have otherwise gained which will facilitate them confidence and experience to later integrate back into normal life as self supporting members of society!

1. 5. Worship Area

A communal center of worship for all religions will be available to all Mawaddah staff residents and visitors. Under one roof all faiths will be facilitated and respected. Mawaddah believes in Oneness and will strive in all it undertakes to bring people together as one unified loving family.

1. 6. Communal Garden

Gardens by their very nature are therapeutic, social and healing. Mawaddah’s communal garden will be designed to serve as a restful social relaxation area, a functioning mini farm and a gentle exercise outlet. To adequately accommodate our initial family needs we will incorporate wheel chair access, wide level paths, raised garden beds, hand rails, benches and viewing areas. Mawaddah’s entire family including staff, family members and visitors will be welcome to partake in either simply enjoy or helping maintain our centrally located garden. Emphasis will be placed on giving as much viewing access as possible to the garden area from Mawaddah’s main buildings.

This topic can be greatly expanded on as the Mawaddah Project grows, for example the communal garden later could be extended into a partially self-sustaining mini farm.


And as with all planted seeds it can only grow into its


stage by stage.

2. Future Facilities

2. 1. Children’s Home (Home of the Future) for abandoned, homeless and orphaned children.

Mawaddah’s Children’s Home will add another separate multi floored well staffed and facilitated building to its complex.

Mawaddah’s Home of the Future aims to create a peaceful, stable, family environment for its children where they feel safe secure and loved. Children will be encouraged to be self-confident independent young persons who will later happily reintegrate into the community as healthy, responsible well educated adults with clear life directions.

Every child has potential – it will be Mawaddah’s responsibility to help each child in its family to tap into their own unique God gifted potential and help inspire them strive to achieve it!

Every child is an expression of Mind Body and Spirit – Mawaddah’s will fully endeavor to nurture each of these aspects of every one of its children.


How the future is shaped is dependent on the life foundation given to the children of now. Mawaddah as it cares for its children will do its best to help shape a bright, peaceful, loving future for our world.

2. 2. Child Day Care facility

Mahwaddah’s Day Care Center firstly provides its staff with a free day care incorporating a preparatory educational facility for their young children.

Secondly to help generate income for Mawaddah this day care and preparatory education facility will be open to the public.

Lastly children of suitable ages from Mawaddah’s Home of the Future will join in activities here. This helps Mawaddah’s young family integrate with regular family children and perhaps build up lasting supportive life time friendships which help bridge understandings of life both life styles

Our mission as we care for children is to create a natural safe learning environment where children learn about life and academics from highly motivated instructors and careers. We further hope to awaken children the essence of their spirits in harmony with the spirit of life while helping them developing independence, self confidence and self esteem.

2. 3. Swimming Pool

Our swimming pool will serve all of Mawaddah’s family and be both recreational and therapeutic.

2. 4. Health Club

The health club will be especially designed as a center of social interaction between parents staff and children where both general exercise equipment and specific physiotherapy equipment is used side by side. Here everyone will be energized and emotionally uplifted as they work out in a relaxed loving atmosphere of friendship and unity.

2. 5. Outdoor Sports/Exercise Area

A healthy body creates a healthy mind and an active body creates an active mind. It matters not if you are 1 year old or 101 years old; the more active you are the healthier you are.

Initially this sports exercise area will be a free open play and walk area for young and old alike divided in two. One half will be for more youth full activities mostly decided on by the children themselves for there personal entertainment. However organized team sporting activities like soccer or basket ball will also be regularly organized. Team sports will benefit our young family by instilling in them the value of team spirit – irrespective of winning or losing – and cooperation with others.

The other half of our exercise area will be set up to accommodate more gentle activities for our elderly plus house a viewing area for spectators of our team events.

Long term we will try to establish connections with other similar facilities and regular schools to join us for organized sports days. We will also do our best to motive well known sports clubs to sponsor and integrate our Children of the Future into their sporting and team activities.


The idea of Mawaddah may have started with One but One committed DREAM TEAM is required to bring Mawaddah to reality.

This is not a ‘One Alone’ project this is an ‘All as One’ Project!

As people serve each other and life the worth of service in life is more fully understood. Life serves each one of us every day and it is our inherent responsibility to serve life every day in every way in return.

That Which is Given is Always Returned!


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*Finally this document is not a personal business proposal. This document is merely a representation of a passion fuelled idea we present to the world in full faith that one day, some way it will be realized.

To be a part of this dream would be amazing but so too would seeing it brought to fruition by any means possible.

We are at your service if you care to pursue this dream or simply discuss it further with us.

Thank you.